I spoke on the phone with my father yesterday afternoon. We discussed dating and education. Separately, that is. Although, majoring in love would be kind of cool if it existed.
He asked me what I looked for in a partner. Is it appearance? Values? Common interests? I told him appearance is important, for sure.
He agreed and admitted that appearance was his only criteria for a partner when he was younger which led to future calamities in his personal relationships.
It makes sense, though. When you’re younger, especially in your twenties, you look good. I remember my man, C, used to tell me — we’re young, and good looking. We should capitalize on any opportunities that this benefit provides, whether that means shacking up with as many girls as possible or getting VIP passes into lines at ritzy clubs in Buzios.
He went on to say that while appearance should still be important when choosing a partner, I should also consider, financial stability, common interests, similar values, and education level. That last one is a problem.
Because as much education as a girl has, as many credentials as she may have earned, as many books she may have read…she’s still a girl. She may be intelligent, but emotional compatibility might be a problem with any girls I date.
I can be a robot, which isn’t to say I don’t have any emotions; I just tend to think rationally not just sometimes but more like all the time. I don’t think this makes me anymore intelligent than any girl I’ve been with, it just makes me a guy.
So what girl would be compatible with me? I think Jerry Seinfeld said it best when he found the female version of himself —
No, no this woman is different , she’s incredible. she’s just like me. She talks like me, she acts like me. She even ordered cereal at a restaurant. We even have the same initials.
Wait a minute, I just realized what’s going on.
Now I know what I’ve been looking for all these years…myself!
I’ve been waiting for me to come along and now I’ve swept myself off my feet.
